Pre teen dating
Having supportive friends around can exert a powerful moderating influence.
But by the same token, a tough, aggressive peer group can have a negative influence, such as tolerating dating violence.
“If you pretended to be somebody else, your friends would go, ‘Whoa, why are you acting so weird?
’” Also, there’s no need to pre-arrange that cellphone call to get you out of a date you’re not enjoying.
“So from a parenting perspective,” says Connolly, who is also the director of the La Marsh Centre for Research on Violence and Conflict Resolution, “you want to know who your kids are friends with.” Kids like the security of having their friends around.
That’s my idea of fun.” There’s certainly been an increase in boy-girl parties at younger ages, including mixed sleepovers.” Catherine: “OK.” The two Toronto-area teens have been going out since last April, although rarely on their own.In their group of eight friends, the four boys and four girls are paired off into couples, but prefer to spend their time all together, sitting around and talking at one another’s houses, grabbing something to eat, going to a movie. “We just feel better when we’re together,” Catherine explains.’ You all decide to see a movie and you’ll all get separate drives there.You usually don’t go out one-on-one.” And there are some other interesting developments in this brave new world, including the fact that teens feel freer to put off sex, and they see love, marriage and kids as best left for the (fairly) distant future.